Friday, February 20, 2009

Grandma


We took the kid to the park a couple of weeks ago and he really had a blast. My original intention was to start his football training, but he had other ideas...

Max also went on his first plane ride to NJ last week. He was really good on the plane and did an excellent job of holding my hand and keeping me calm, especially during take off where most of my issues with with flying seem to surface. Had Max stayed home I would have snorted some Xanax and all would have been right with my world, but Max works even better than Xanax.

Less than a week before that Allyson, Max and myself drove to NJ for a few days because my Grandmother had a stroke and a heart attack. So we went up to say goodbye to her. And then after we came back Grandma died a few days later and that's why Max and I flew to NJ. So it's been pretty hectic and sad around here.

My grandmother was an amazing woman. She had a family, ran a very successful business with her father and then siblings, and after they sold the store she travelled all over the world. Grandmother was 96 when she died. She led a very full and happy life, but we are still very sad to see her go. Most of us were convinced that she was going to live forever.

So another first for Max last week was going to a funeral. I carried him as we walked behind the casket from the Hearse to the grave site and then he stood with me and our family while the prayers were said and as the coffin was being lowered in to the grave. I don't know why but it was really important to me to have him there and somehow I think he knew that. He knew grandma and she really loved him. He's actually named after her late husband my grandfather, Max.

We're back home now and things are slowly getting back to normal for us.

We miss you Grandma.

24 comments:

HoosierGirl5 said...

Sorry to hear about your Grandma, Corky. Max is really growing. He looks great. How is Allyson feeling? How does she feel about going to school until June 5? I think it sucks, but we don't really have a choice, do we?

Hope all is well.

J.

Dana said...

You know, you really don't have to wait for some life changing event to occur to blog *wink*

Sorry to hear about your grandmother. I've always found it interesting that a new life comes into the family when a cherished life leaves.

Speaking of which, how is Allyson?

fiwa said...

I'm sorry to hear about your Grandma, sounds like she was a terrifc lady. I'm glad Max got to know her.

I was wondering how Allyson is doing too. Hope you're all ok.

love,
fiwa

Chris H said...

Sorry you lost your Grandma mate.. but it's the way of life eh?

Jay said...

Condolences on the the loss of your grandma dude.

The Lone Beader said...

Sorry to hear about your Grandmother! She was young! My Grandmother passed away about 5 years ago- she was 98! :o

And, it was probably tough for the little one to go to the funeral. I remember going to my grandfather's funeral when I was 5 yrs old, and I cried the entire time. I still remember it like it was yesterday. :(

Burfica said...

so sorry to hear about your grandma!!! I'm glad she got to see max before she went.

big hugs to ya corky

Cheryl said...

96 active years is such a blessing, but that doesn't make the loss any easier. I'm really sorry for your loss.

Palm Springs Savant said...

Corky- I'm real sorry for you, and Max too. heartfelt condolances to you and the family. :-/

Melissa said...

SO SO sorry about your grandmother....it is amazing how little children do "get it" and manage to lift our spirit in the most sad times.

Hope Allyson is feeling well, and hope to see you soon on a happy occasion!

Michael said...

Sorry about your grandma, Corky.

Terri said...

I'm sorry about grandma Corky. Glad you could say she lived a full and happy life.

And my oh my does Max look ever so big and grown up in that picture! Cutie pie.

Real Live Lesbian said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Wow, Max is growin' like crazy! What a cutie pie. AND you've a new one already?

I need to stop by more often! ;)

Congrats on the baby!

Olly said...

Oh, that is so sad. Sorry about your loss. It seems that just lately so many of us are saying good bye to someone special.

TheBirdman33 said...

I'm sorry again and I'm glad I could be there with you guys every step of the way.

dilling said...

so sorry for your loss, but wow, such an amazing life...right down to meeting Max, the second Max. Surely, she's smiling down on you.

Joshua said...

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Joshua said...

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Christie said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad that Max got to meet such a special person.

willSIX said...

She'll be sorely missed at Seder, my friend. Again, from my family to yours, our sincere condolences. My Pack-n-Play is always available for you, should you need it in the future.

Biddie said...

I'm sorry to hear about your Grandma, Corky.
Grandmothers rock, don't they?
I'm glad that you had Max with you when you said goodbye :)

CRUSTYBEEF said...

I'm very sorry Corky.
You're setting great examples for your young Max..you made your grandma smile down on you from heaven for that, I bet..
Sounds like she was a strong woman..and the pic you have of her..she doesn't look like a woman in her 90's. WOW!!
good genes!


My sympathies.

Big Pissy said...

What a lovely tribute to your Grandma.

{{{hugs}}}

Anonymous said...

Kieth, this is Alan. Fanny was a great lady, and a thoroughgoing delight. I will miss her greatly. Her epitaph should be her favorite saying: Don't help me!" She was far abd away the most independent lady I ever met (and don't forget, I'm married to Annette).